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By Ana Becerra, Psy.D., Integrative Psychological Consultants

Parent-adolescent conflict tends to increase during the teen years.  During this time, adolescents are striving to become more independent.  Parents may resist this change by not granting them the autonomy they desire.  Adolescents may defy rules or stretch boundaries. The transactions between parental control and adolescent rebellion can create feelings of resentment, frustration, or helplessness in the parent-adolescent dyad. Effective conflict resolution strategies are imperative to repair the situation and improve the quality of the relationship.  Here are some strategies you can use:

Have an open conversation. Oftentimes, conflict is not resolved because neither party knows what the source of the problem was or does not see the other’s point of view clearly. Encourage your adolescent to express his/her feelings. Invite them to tell you exactly why they are upset and listen when they say. This can allow you to understand the conflict that occurred from their perspective. It can also increase the quality of your relationship with your son/daughter. Validate what you have heard them say and then openly express yourself.

Keep an open mind. Be willing to change. As your adolescent is maturing and seeking more independence, perhaps adjusting your expectation of their roles and responsibilities is needed. 

Set reasonable expectations.  Conflicts often occur because adolescents are trying to assert their autonomy.  Talk with them about an appropriate timeline for when they can acquire certain privileges (i.e., curfew can be at midnight when you turn 18) and concerns that led to the limitations.

Compromise. Get rid of the power struggle that may occur during conflict by discussing a solution that both you and your adolescent agree on. Look for ways that you can both meet your objectives at least partially.

Model effective emotion regulation. Oftentimes when we are upset we tend to react by saying hurtful things or by withdrawing. Teaching your adolescent to tolerate their discomfort by managing your own emotions in the moment can be an invaluable experience.  Remember to be calm and resist the urge to react (i.e., say something hurtful or withdraw).  This can allow you to listen to your adolescent, keep an open mind, and problem-solve effectively.  It can also decrease the amount of tension you experience with your son/daughter.  Remember, when one person remains calm, it is very difficult for the other one to continue being reactive.

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The Greatest Love Story of All Time

Who doesn't love a great love story?  Ralph Waldo Emerson observed that the entire world loves a lover.  All of us love a love story. Romance novels are perennially on the best-seller's list because everybody likes to read a love story. Movies that have as their theme a love story, sell in the millions because everybody loves a love story.  

History is filled with love stories that have been recorded through the ages and surprisingly nothing much has changed. The love these people had for their special someone might have been mere gossip in their day but it survived time in the form of changing the course of history and leaving monuments in memory of one another. 

The famous love stories are a living proof that love is immortal. Though lovers die, love remains forever and does not let their sacrifices go waste. These popular love affairs are an inspiration to many around the world. Most youngsters smitten by love often become synonymous to these famous lovers. People give them names like Romeo-Juliet that proves that these famous lovers are a big inspiration for falling in love.

Our American society is infatuated with love and romance. This is reflected in the movies Hollywood produces and most of the popular songs that are written. The stories of lovers who believed in each other and their love even if the whole world was against them still inspire and often, make us sad. They did, however, show us that true love is stronger than anything else in the world. And it is the love that they had we are all hoping to find someday.

Cleopatra and Mark Antony is one of those love stories.  Cleopatra is best remembered as Egypt's last Pharaoh even though she ruled in alliance with her male relatives. Remembered in history as the most beautiful woman, she managed to charm two of the most powerful men in the world. Cleopatra fell in love with Mark Anthony after the death of Julius Caesar and their relationship lasted 11 years. In 41 B.C, Antony stabbed himself with his sword after mistakenly hearing that Cleopatra had already done the same. He was brought to Cleopatra and died in her arms.  Cleopatra took her life by inducing an asp bite in her. Cleopatra and Mark Antony are said to be buried together but the location of their tomb remains a mystery. 

Probably the most famous love story of all was written by the celebrated English poet and playwright William Shakespeare, of the tragic love between Romeo and Juliet. I completely appreciate the brilliance of Shakespeare, and although this love story tempestuous between Romeo and Juliet has its own significance, I can’t deny the fact it is one of the greatest love stories of all time. Definitely it is wonderful to see these two hopeless and young lovers who are willing to sacrifice everything in order to be together, but their story is momentary. Because of the feud between their families, they soon plan to take their lives so that they can be united ultimately in death. Romeo also commits suicide for mistakenly believing that Juliet is dead. Upon discovering his dead body Juliet does he same when she finds Romeo is dead. 

The Bible is a book that is packed full with love stories. Stories which are romantic, stories of betrayal, temptation and tragedy, even a few about love at first sight - a topic which a good few are skeptical about.

Isaac and Rebekah

The first love story that comes to mind when thinking of the first book of the Bible is Isaac and Rebekah's. Abraham, Isaac's father, sends his servant out to find a wife for his son among his people. The servant arrives in the land of his master and prays to the Lord to guide him when choosing the right wife. He prays that the girl will offer to not only draw water for him to drink, but water to feed his camels also. Along comes Rebekah who offers her services and willingly serves the servant. She then invites him to her home. The servant realizes she is the one. He tells her father and brother of his journey and his promise to Abraham, and they consent to let Rebekah leave with him to marry a man she has never met. Rebekah is asked if she wants to go and she readily consents to this arranged marriage. When Isaac sees her in the distance, the Bible says it was love at first sight. Rebekah and Isaac go on to have twin boys and though they have their differences, the Bible does not dispute their love for one another. (See Genesis Chapter 24)

Jacob and Rachel

Another love story happens just a few chapters down when Isaac and Rebekah's son Jacob flees from his brother's wrath to the same land from whence his mother came. He sees at the well, a shepherdess and her name is Rachel. She is the daughter of his mother's brother, Laban. He pledges to work for seven years so that he can marry Rachel and when he is tricked by Laban into marrying Leah, Rachel's sister, he works seven more to make Rachel his bride. Thus Jacob ends up with two wives. One whom he loves more than the other. This causes friction between the sisters and one cannot help but feel sorry for both. The unloved sister is blessed with children while the loved one is barren and both are unsatisfied with Jacob being in the middle. The Bible says that Leah was blesses with children so that she would be comforted because of the love she lacked. But Rachel longed for children as well and said to Jacob, "Give me children or I die." In the end Jacob ends up with twelve sons from Leah, Rachel and their maids Zilpah and Bilhah. Rachel dies giving birth to the last son, Benjamin whom she named Benoni meaning son of my sorrow but Jacob changed his name to Benjamin meaning son of the right hand. She is buried on the way to Bethlehem while Leah dies presumably in her old age and is buried next to Jacob in the tomb of Mamre. (See Genesis 30-35)

Boaz and Ruth

Coming from Moab with her mother-in-law, a widow, Ruth arrives in Bethlehem and gleans in the field of Boaz. He is kind to her and makes sure that she is able to receive all that she needs. When Naomi says that he is he kinsman redeemer, Ruth acts upon her advice and goes to Boaz who takes responsibility for her. He redeems his kinsman's inheritance which includes Ruth, and marries her. Together, Ruth and Boaz they have a son whose name is Obed who becomes the father of Jesse who becomes the father of David. (See the Book of Ruth)

Samson and Delilah

There are countless others- Samson and Delilah comes to mind. He was a mighty judge of Israel and she a Philistine woman. His parents asked him to marry a woman of his own people but he would not listen. He falls in love with Delilah. Delilah betrays him into the hands of the Philistines when he reveals to her the source of his strength. He is beaten and blinded as a result and in the end, God grants him the strength he once had to kill more Philistines in his death than he ever did in his life. (See Judges 13-16 for the full story of Samson)

David and Bathsheba

Then there is David and Bathsheba. How he gave into his temptation when he saw her bathing on the rooftop. He schemes and plots and has her husband Uriah murdered so that he can marry her, and as a result of this, God allows the life of their first-born child to die. The Bible says that at the time, David was blinded when it came to his sin, and the prophet Nathan had to reveal it to him through a parable. He repents and the Lord forgives him. They go on to have a son named Solomon - the king who was known for his wisdom. (See 2 Samuel 11-12 to read that story in its entirety.)

Solomon and Sheba

Solomon wrote the Song of Solomon which is one of the most poetic expressions of love in history. Some speculate that it was written to the Queen of Sheba who came to see if all the rumors of Solomon were true. Here is a little sample of his poetry:

How fair is thy love, my sister, my spouse! how much better is thy love than wine! and the smell of thine ointments than all spices!

Thy lips, O my spouse, drop as the honeycomb: honey and milk are under thy tongue; and the smell of thy garments is like the smell of Lebanon.

A garden enclosed is my sister, my spouse; a spring shut up, a fountain sealed.

Thy plants are an orchard of pomegranates, with pleasant fruits; camphire, with spikenard,

Spikenard and saffron; calamus and cinnamon, with all trees of frankincense; myrrh and aloes, with all the chief spices:

A fountain of gardens, a well of living waters, and streams from Lebanon.

Awake, O north wind; and come, thou south; blow upon my garden, that the spices thereof may flow out. Let my beloved come into his garden, and eat his pleasant fruits. Song of Solomon 4:10-16 K.J.V.

Ahasuerus and Esther

After Solomon's songs, one comes across the story of Esther. A young Jewish girl, chosen to be Queen in place of Vashti who has been deposed of by King Ahasuerus. She is in a delicate position, her people are in danger, and yet, the King shows her favor and offers her up to half of his kingdom. (See Esther)

Joseph and Mary

Engaged to a man whom she has never known physically, Mary is visited by the angel Gabriel who tells her she is to conceive and bear a son whose name will be Jesus. Joseph too is visited by the angel and instead of casting Mary aside, he chooses to marry her and raise the child as his own. This child is the Messiah of the world. (See Luke 1-2)

 The Greatest Love Story Ever Written

What is the greatest love story of all-time? If you were to ask this question on the streets, you probably would get a variety of answers like Romeo & Juliet or Gone With The Wind. These are great stories filled with romance but all pale in comparison to the greatest love story of all-time: The Holy Bible.

Why is the Holy Bible the greatest love story ever written? Just read it. God is love (1 John 4:8). Every Scripture of the Bible, if it were broken down like a molecular structure into atoms, the atoms would all reveal love.

But what makes The Holy Bible the greatest love story is that it is non-fiction and contains the greatest and highest examples of love: philia love (brotherly love, the love between friends as Jesus had with His Apostles) and agape love (the unconditional, selfless type of true love. It is God’s kind of love.)

God’s Love For Us

More importantly than romantic love, is God's love for us. God sent His Son Jesus Christ into the world to die for our sins and so that he could understand our pain and suffering. As sinners we are not worthy, but this is proof of God's love. grace and mercy:

1 John 4:7 : You see, at just the right time, when we were still powerless, Christ died for the ungodly. Very rarely will anyone die for a righteous man, though for a good man someone might possibly dare to die. But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

Ephesians 2:4-5: But because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressions—it is by grace you have been saved.

Love Is A Choice, Be Pro-Love

Whether is it loving our spouses, loving God or loving our neighbor as ourselves, they are all the same in God's eyes and Love is a choice. God gave us free will. We choose to love our spouses as Christ loves us and be committed to them until death do us part or we dishonor God's commands. 

In loving our neighbors, we choose to help our friends and the less fortunate or we ignore Jesus’s teaching and life on earth. In our relationship with God, we choose either good or evil, lightness over darkness, or eternal life vs. death.

Jesus said to His disciples John 15:11-19: "I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete. My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this that he lay down his life for his friends. You are my friends if you do what I command. I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master's business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you. You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you to go and bear fruit—fruit that will last. Then the Father will give you whatever you ask in my name. This is my command: Love each other."

Jesus didn't say to love one another, only if they think like you, look like you, dress like you, or only, if they are a nice person or if you know them well.

In fact, Jesus even tells us to love our enemies:

Luke 6:27-28: But I tell you who hear me: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.

Luke 6:32-33: If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even 'sinners' love those who love them. And if you do good to those who are good to you, what credit is that to you? Even 'sinners' do that.

Our goal and purpose in Life

God is love and He wants us to have an eyelash-to-eyelash relationship with Him. We can only achieve this through faith plus love. We must love & forgive again, and again, and again… as God loves us and as Jesus Christ demonstrated for us.

As Archbishop Fulton Sheen once said, “How can you love the one you cannot see, if you don’t love the one you can see?” (1 John 4:20.)

If you don’t know what your purpose in life is, it is to love God and all in his Kingdom on earth and to strive for eternal life.

As Mother Teresa of Calcutta once said: “In this life we cannot do great things. We can only do small things with great love.”

As for those who subscribe to Sola Scriptura, remember that Jesus Christ never wrote a book while on this earth. He taught orally, yet he authored the greatest love story through His actions. We need to read the book, know the book, but most importantly, we need to live the book—the book of love. As the old saying goes, "You may be the only Bible someone ever reads or the only Jesus someone sees."

So, it should be quite clear, our challenge—every day—while on this earth... is to author our own great love story.

Actually, God is the author of the greatest love story ever told. ~ His relentless pursuit of our heart is evidence of his unconditional love for us:  Jesus came to seek and save that which was lost. He laid down His life for His friends fulfilling every prophesy made about Him in the Old Testament. The Bible says in John 3:16 "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life." The greatest love story in the Bible is this one and it started from the beginning and has no end. The other love stories last for a time. His love is forever. (See the entire Bible.) Just before His death, the real messianic hero uttered these final words: “Forgive them Father, for they know not what they do.”  

A young student asked Karl Barth to share the most significant theological truth he had discovered in all of his years of study. Barth, one of the most prolific theologians of the 20th century, wrote approximately sixty volumes of commentaries and theological studies. This brilliant man that many call the most important theologian of modern times thought for a moment, smiled, and said, "Jesus loves me, this I know, for the Bible tells me so."

These very words are what make it the greatest love story ever told.

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12 companies rejected Muslim woman as She wore a hijab, A Successful Women Story

I met a Muslim woman. She wore a hijab, a symbol of the modesty and behavior of the Muslim lady. That lady told me proudly that she’d rejected over 12 companies when she was job-hunting. She eventually took a lower paying job over their offers. She rejected them all because of one thing. They asked her to take her hijab off at work, so that she could “blend in with the rest of the company.” Here’s the thing. Company culture is not about forcing people to FIT into your idea of what they should be. It’s about building an idea AROUND people in your company, and moulding an INCLUSIVE environment. It’s ironic that companies today claim they have the best culture; when their solution is to buy a couple of pool tables and a snack bar. The personal identities of your employees matter more to them than the identity of your company. Your pool games and snack bars are irrelevant to them. When you ask people to strip off the very things they stand for, so they can blend into your assumption of who they SHOULD be, it’s a recipe for disaster. Beliefs are shaped by stories. Just don’t make yours a sad one for them to remember.
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Manager: I want you to complete this task by today and I want it 100 percent accurate. Don't leave the office until it's done. Associate: but Sir.. Ok sir. I‘ll try my best. Another Day: Manager: I am cancelling your approved leaves. We r busy so u cancel ur plans. If u still wanna go than resign and go. Associate: oh ok sir. If I have no choice wht can I do. Let’s try it this way! Manager: we need to complete this task, I know you are capable enough to complete it today. I trust you will not let me down as you never have. Associate: You can count on me. Consider it done. Another day: Manager: We have an important project to handover next month which requires your expertise, unfortunately i have to ask you to postpone your leave, hope this is Ok for you? if not than i ll try to manage. Associate: No problem. Anything for you and our company It’s all about the way we communicate with our peers, subordinates and managers! Yes! It makes a lot of difference. What do u say?
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"Marketing is like sex: everyone thinks they’re good at it." Steve Tobak I would take that one step further and say email marketing is like sex… With this in mind, here are a few basic things you may like to consider when choosing an email provider. Because you've got to have the tools, right? 1 Do they provide basic reporting tools so who know open rates/click through rates etc. 2 Do they integrate well with other services you use to run your business i.e. WordPress, Shopify etc. 3 What is the editing tool like, do you have a range of templates you can use, are there built in social media sharing tools? 4 What is their support like? Do you have to be a premium member to access? 5 Autoresponder functionality: Not all providers offer this (especially free plans) 6 Segmentation: This is important if you want to segment subscribers depending on action/product purchased etc and build a targeted sales funnel. 7 A/B testing. Super important for testing headlines 8 Education: Some providers have a good knowledge base you can dive into as and when. 9. User friendly: It's all very well signing up for a highfalutin' email provider, but if you have trouble using it effectively, then the premium might not be worth the hassle. What would you add? Would love to know :-) 
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A jobless man applied for the position of "office boy" at a large company. The employer interviewed him, then a test: Clean the floor. “You are hired.” The employer said. ”Give me your email address, and I’ll send you the application to fill in.” The man replied, “I don’t have a computer, or an email.” “I’m sorry,” said the employer, “if you don’t have an email , you can't have the job.” The man left with no hope. He only had £10 in his pocket. He then decided to go to the supermarket, bought a 10 kg tomato crate, then sold them door to door. In two hours, he doubled his capital. He repeated this 3 times and returned home with £60. The man realised that he could survive this way. He started to go everyday earlier and returned late. Five years later, the company was one of the biggest food retailers. He started to plan his family’s future and decided to have a life insurance. He called a broker and chose a protection plan. The conversation concluded, the broker asked him his email. The man replied: “I don’t have an email.” The broker replied curiously, “You don’t have an email, and yet have succeeded to build an empire. Imagine what position you could have if you had an email?!” The man paused and replied: “An office boy!”

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